about Together in Holiness

Where Spouses Discover God’s Plan for Their Family
Together in Holiness is a marriage conference series for dioceses inspiring spouses to grow together in holiness and empowering parents to form their children in the Catholic faith. To learn more about the Together in Holiness marriage enrichment initiative, click here.
  • “The Church and the wider culture benefits from every household answering the call to grow in their passion for the mission of serving as a domestic church. I invite all couples to participate in the Together in Holiness conference for a day of prayer, reflection, and fellowship. I encourage every couple in our local church to join me at this conference.“
  • - Most Rev. David A. Konderla




  • Early Bird Couple: $54 | Early Bird Individual: $35
    •      *Early Bird pricing ends December 17.
    •       A box lunch and a light afternoon snack is included for each adult registrant.
  • Couple: $64 | Individual: $40
  • Scholarships for couples and individuals are available.
  • A box lunch is included for each adult registrant. Parents are responsible for packing a lunch for their child(ren) who are in childcare.

  • Exhibitors*

  • Ministry Registration: $95 (includes registration for 2 people & 1 table)
  • Vendor Registration: $165 (includes registration for 2 people & 1 table)
  • *Pre-approval for exhibitor booths is required. Please email [email protected] for more information.


  • If you need assistance with the cost of the conference, we encourage you to apply for a partial or full scholarship (click here); if you feel called to contribute to our scholarship fund, you can do so at the time of registration.

Refund Information
  • If you are no longer able to attend the conference, after purchasing your ticket, you may choose to transfer your registration fees to a scholarship couple in need, or request a refund.
  • All refunds must be requested 2 weeks prior to the conference. The last day to request a refund is Friday, January 21. All refund requests made on or after January 22 will not be accepted, but the funds will automatically be transferred to a couple in need. Please email [email protected] to transfer your registration or request a refund.


10:00 AM
  • Conference Check-In
11:00 AM
  • Words of Welcome
11:15 AM-12:15 PM
  • The Household of God and Your Household: What Does it Mean to be a Domestic Church?
  • Roland Millare, STD
12:15-2:00 PM
  • Break for Lunch and Prayer
2:00-3:00 PM
  • Blessed are the Peacemakers - The Tranquility of Order within the Domestic Church
  • Deacon J and Kelsie Thomas
3:15-4:15 PM
  • Light of the World: Tools for Renewing Your Domestic Church
  • Erika Ahern
4:15 PM
  • Closing Comments
4:30 PM
  • Transition to Mass
5:00 PM
  • Vigil Mass
  • Celebrant, Most Rev. David A. Konderla, Bishop of Tulsa 


Vice President of Curriculum and Director of Clergy Initiatives

Dr. Roland Millare, a native Houstonian, serves as Vice President of Curriculum and Director of Clergy Initiatives for the St. John Paul II Foundation (Houston, TX). Dr. Millare served as a member of the Theology Department at St. John XXIII College Preparatory (Katy, TX) for over 15 years. He received a BA in Theology from Franciscan University in Steubenville, Ohio. He has a MA in Theological Studies (with a concentration in Moral Theology) from the Notre Dame Graduate School of Christendom College (Alexandria, VA) and a Licentiate (STL) and Doctorate in Sacred Theology (STD) in Dogmatic Theology (with a specialization in Sacramental Theology) from the University of St. Mary of the Lake (Mundelein, IL). Dr. Millare also serves as an adjunct professor of theology for permanent deacon candidates, seminarians, undergraduate and graduate students at the University of St. Thomas, St. Mary’s Seminary, the Diocese of Fort Worth and the University of Dallas. He has published various theological articles for Logos, Antiphon, New Blackfriars, Nova et Vetera, and the Heythrop Journal. He has published the book, A Living Sacrifice: Liturgy and Eschatology in Joseph Ratzinger (Emmaus Academic, 2022). Dr. Millare has also contributed an article to a forthcoming lexicon on the theology of Joseph Ratzinger (Ignatius Press). Dr. Millare is a member of the Fellowship of Catholic Scholars, Academy of Catholic Theology, and the Society for Catholic Liturgy. Dr. Millare lives with his beautiful wife Veronica and their three children.

Bishop of Tulsa

Bishop David A. Konderla is the second of twelve children, son of the late David and Ann Konderla. He grew up in Bryan, Texas; graduated from Bryan High School in 1978; and worked for several years as a machinist before entering the seminary in 1985. After graduating from the University of Dallas in 1989 with a bachelor's degree in history, he earned his Master of Divinity from the University of St. Thomas and St. Mary's Seminary, and was ordained on June 3, 1995. Bishop Konderla served at St. Louis Parish in Austin and St. Luke's Parish in Temple before his assignment as associate pastor of St. Mary's Catholic Center in College Station. After almost four years with the Aggies, he was named as Vocation Director for the Diocese of Austin, where he served the diocese for four years. He then returned to St. Mary's as pastor and Director of Campus Ministry in August 2005. Bishop Konderla was appointed the fourth Bishop of Tulsa on May 13, 2016 by Pope Francis. He was ordained and installed as Bishop of the Diocese of Tulsa on June 29, 2016.

Catholic Writer and Founder of Verity Ed

Erika J. Ahern is a senior classical educator, consultant, speaker, and writer. She blogs and consults at Verity Ed’s website and YouTube channel, where she equips parents with the tools, information, and confidence to claim their role as their children’s primary educators. Her writing has appeared in the National Catholic Register, Catholic Exchange, Crisis, and Columbia Magazine. Erika lives in Connecticut with her husband, Todd, and their six children.

Deacon and Faith Formation Coordinator, Holy Family Cathedral

Deacon Thomas and Kelsie have been married almost 23 years and have 5 children. They have a passion for living an authentically Catholic marriage and family life. Deacon Thomas was a convert in 1999 and ordained to the permanent diaconate in 2020. He has a particular interest in cultivating strong and properly-ordered male leadership within the family. He currently serves as Deacon at Holy Family Cathedral in Tulsa. Kelsie serves at Holy Family Cathedral as well as the Faith Formation Coordinator with an emphasis on Restored Order of the Sacraments. They enjoy mentoring engaged couples and families striving to truly live the good life in the midst of our current culture. They have owned and operated CatholicSacramentals.org, an educational site encouraging the use of sacramentals for devotion, protection from evil, and the blessing of children, since 2014.



Holy Family Cathedral

820 S Boulder Ave
Tulsa, OK 74119

For More Information:
Mylinh Vo, Conference Coordinator
[email protected]





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    Houston, TX 77027


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    Katy, TX 77491