About Together in Holiness

Where Spouses Discover God’s Plan for Their Family
Together in Holiness is a marriage conference series for dioceses that inspires spouses to grow together in holiness and empowers parents to form their children in the Catholic faith. To learn more about the Together in Holiness marriage enrichment initiative, click here.
  • "Vocations to marriage, the priesthood, and the consecrated life spring forth from families who joyfully seek to encounter the Lord. As we continue to foster all vocations within our diocese, I am delighted to welcome the sixth annual Together in Holiness marriage enrichment conference. Engaged and married couples who attend this conference will be encouraged in their own vocation to marriage while learning how to build a culture of faithful vocations within the domestic church of their family. I pray that many of you will join me for this wonderful event!"
  • - Most Rev. David A. Konderla
  • Bishop of Tulsa




  • Early Bird Couple: $54 | Early Bird Individual: $35
    •      Early Bird pricing ends January 9.
    •      A box lunch and a light afternoon snack is included for each adult registrant.
  • Couple: $64 | Individual: $40
  • On-site Childcare (1-12 yrs): $5/child
  • Scholarships for couples and individuals are available.

  • Exhibitors*
  • Ministry (Non-Profit) Registration: $95 (includes registration for 2 people & 1 table)
  • Vendor (For-Profit) Registration: $165 (includes registration for 2 people & 1 table)
  • *Pre-approval for exhibitor booths is required and space is limited. Please email [email protected] for more information.

  • If you and/or your organization is interested in joining our mission as supporting sponsors, please click here for the Sponsorship Form. You can also submit the form online by clicking here.
  • For questions or more information, please contact the conference coordinator at [email protected].

  • If you need assistance with the cost of the conference, we encourage you to apply for a partial or full scholarship (click here); if you feel called to contribute to our scholarship fund, you can do so at the time of registration.

Refund Information
  • If you are no longer able to attend the conference, after purchasing your ticket, you may choose to transfer your registration fees to a scholarship couple in need, or request a refund.
  • All refunds must be requested 2 weeks prior to the conference. The last day to request a refund is Friday, February 3. All refund requests made on or after February 4 will not be accepted, but the funds will automatically be transferred to a scholarship couple in need. Please email [email protected] to transfer your registration or request a refund.


10:00 AM
  • Conference Check-In
11:00 AM
  • Words of Welcome
11:15 AM - 12:15 PM
    • The Holy Eucharist, A Nuptial Sacrament
    • Roland Millare, STD
12:15 - 1:45 PM
  • Break for Lunch and Prayer
2:00 - 3:00 PM
    • The Eucharistic Mission of the Family
    • Lisa Cotter
3:15 - 4:15 PM
    • Nurturing Vocations in the Home
    • Rev. Sean Donovan
    • Dan and Julianne O'Brien
4:15 - 4:30 PM
  • Closing Comments
5:00 - 6:00 PM
  • Vigil Mass and Marriage Blessing
  • Most Rev. David A. Konderla


Bishop of Tulsa

Bishop David A. Konderla is the second of twelve children, son of the late David and Ann Konderla. He grew up in Bryan, Texas; graduated from Bryan High School in 1978; and worked for several years as a machinist before entering the seminary in 1985. After graduating from the University of Dallas in 1989 with a bachelor's degree in history, he earned his Master of Divinity from the University of St. Thomas and St. Mary's Seminary, and was ordained on June 3, 1995. Bishop Konderla served at St. Louis Parish in Austin and St. Luke's Parish in Temple before his assignment as associate pastor of St. Mary's Catholic Center in College Station. After almost four years with the Aggies, he was named as Vocation Director for the Diocese of Austin, where he served the diocese for four years. He then returned to St. Mary's as pastor and Director of Campus Ministry in August 2005. Bishop Konderla was appointed the fourth Bishop of Tulsa on May 13, 2016 by Pope Francis. He was ordained and installed as Bishop of the Diocese of Tulsa on June 29, 2016.

Vice President of Curriculum and Director of Clergy Initiatives, St. John Paul II Foundation

Dr. Roland Millare, a native Houstonian, serves as the Vice President of Curriculum and the Director of Clergy Initiatives for the St. John Paul II Foundation (Houston, TX). Dr. Millare served as a member of the Theology Department at St. John XXIII College Preparatory (Katy, TX) for over 15 years. He received a BA in Theology from Franciscan University in Steubenville, Ohio. He has a MA in Theological Studies (with a concentration in Moral Theology) from the Notre Dame Graduate School of Christendom College (Alexandria, VA) and a Licentiate (STL) and Doctorate in Sacred Theology (STD) in Dogmatic Theology (with a specialization in Sacramental Theology) from the University of St. Mary of the Lake (Mundelein, IL). Dr. Millare also serves as an adjunct professor of theology for permanent deacon candidates, seminarians, undergraduate and graduate students at the University of St. Thomas, St. Mary’s Seminary, the Diocese of Fort Worth and the University of Dallas. He has published various theological articles for Logos, Antiphon, New Blackfriars, Nova et Vetera, and the Heythrop Journal. He has published the book, A Living Sacrifice: Liturgy and Eschatology in Joseph Ratzinger (Emmaus Academic, 2022). Dr. Millare has also contributed an article to a forthcoming lexicon on the theology of Joseph Ratzinger (Ignatius Press). Dr. Millare is a member of the Fellowship of Catholic Scholars, Academy of Catholic Theology, and the Society for Catholic Liturgy. Dr. Millare enjoys the gift of life and love with his beautiful wife Veronica and their three children.

Parishioners at Church of St. Benedict

Dan and Julianne have been married for 37 years. They are blessed with 3 children.  Their oldest child, Fr. Sean, is a priest in Poteau, OK.  Their daughter, Pamela, is married to David, and they are parents of 5 children. Their son, Allen, passed away at the age of 13.  Dan has worked in the construction industry for over 40 years and Julianne works for the Diocese of Tulsa.  They are both active in their parish of St. Benedict, along with diocesan organizations and events. They enjoy spending time with their family and friends.

Catholic Author and Speaker

Lisa Cotter is a leading Catholic speaker and author known for her practical insights on relationships, femininity, and living life with excellence. After serving as FOCUS missionaries for over 10 years, Lisa and her husband Kevin have continued to share their passion for evangelization with Catholics all around the world. She is the author of Reveal the Gift: Living the Feminine Genius and Dating Detox: 40 Days of Perfecting Love in an Imperfect World. She has traveled widely as a presenter for conferences such as SEEK and Steubenville youth conferences, and her work has been featured on Ascension Presents, EWTN, Formed.org, and dozens of other Catholic outlets. Living in Denver, CO, with her husband and four children, Lisa is wrapping up a Master’s in Theology from the Augustine Institute.

Pastor of Sts. Peter and Paul Catholic Church

Father Donovan is a native of Tulsa who attended St. Mary’s Parish and School, Bishop Kelley High School, and the University of Notre Dame.  After completing a degree in Philosophy and Theology at Notre Dame, he worked for Catholic Charities for 2 years, first in a brief time as a cook in the AIDS residence, then as a Case Worker in Emergency Aid, while also teaching Philosophy at night at St. Gregory’s College for Working Adults.  He then attained two more Theological degrees at the Catholic University of Leuven in Belgium, including a Master’s in Dogmatic Theology, before applying to the seminary.  While in seminary, he received a Licentiate in Spiritual Theology and also finished the coursework for a Licentiate in Ecumenical Theology at the Angelicum University in Rome before being ordained a priest.  He has served at the parishes of St. Thomas More and St. Bernard’s in Tulsa and has served at Immaculate Conception in Pawhuska, Barnsdall, and Shidler for the last 7 years. He is now the pastor of Saints Peter and Paul in Tulsa.



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